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Hope you had a good day!
@ZilaI really appreciate you checking up on me, that's nice of you. I had a bad day turn great! Wby?
Discovery of the day: I think I move on from people pretty fast if I'm given a good enough reason to xD. And I'm proud of this.
Today was especially wild. Got into a bit of a misunderstanding with a friend, and had my first experience with being ghosted. And while it was VERY sad at first, looking back, I think it's very interesting to see how I dealt with this. My friends usually find it pretty difficult to move on from people, they keep journaling about it for months. I was over it within hours.
My approach to the problem was to talk about it with a friend of mine that I'd known for about 1.5 years now, he helps me with my thinking when I feel overwhelmed hahaha. We discussed about the issue, and after I had my fair share of reasons to not take this personally, I moved on. I don't know if it's coz I'm not very intimate with people in general, or rationale is just my strong suit. Either way, I caught on with the fact that I appreciated the person without a contingency plan (as in, I appreciate her existence regardless of whether she felt the same way) and how it was the uncertainty that I was sad over, and not the rejection, ig?
Anyway, apologies for the rant. Just thought it was an interesting topic to discuss about :3
No problem! I'm really thankful for our conversations on Insta, you've said some nice things that brightened my day.
I'm doing good, just an exhausted mess atm. The universe is testing me but the jokes on It, my patience has no limits! I was born into crisis. Shaped by it. Learning to make the perfect batch of Gougères, with a broken oven and limited amount of cheese.
Aww, I'm sorry about that! Glad you had a good friend that you could turn to and help you out. I'm kind of in limbo on communication myself. Though I haven't had a computer for a while, I've been using my cell. I'm not sure if my reply ever got back to someone online or if I said something dumb. I'm too nervous to send another in case it was the latter.
Someone once told me that if it was easy getting over people than they weren't the right kind of people meant for you to suffer with. Others have said that hindsight gives you perspective and you end up hurting when you least expect to. Sages, am I right?
Regardless, it sounds like you have a good idea on how to address these matters and a good friend too! Wonderful things to have in life for sure. Nice to know you got some answers and took away something to benefit from.
"Anyway, apologies for the rant. Just thought it was an interesting topic to discuss about :3"
Don't worry about it! Lots of relief comes from venting stuff out, the majority of it is pretty healthy and more necessary than we probably think. If you ever need anything just shout: gougères!
@Zila This whole paragraph was really sweet, thanks for this :3
I was born into crisis. Shaped by it.
Care to elaborate on this? ^^. I'm interested to know what inspired this sentence hahah. Tbh, I'm kinda bad at communication too lol. For me personally, I end up saying pretty regrettable shit to people just coz I have a lot of difficulty reading the room, which I why I often get called tactless, or end up driving potential significant others away the moment I start to let loose . But overall, I'm happy with the friends I have. Although almost all of my friends are ones I made online, (so I missed out on the hang outs big time), I'm very content with the friends I have. What I missed out on, I made up for with quality. And about messages gone wrong, I don't think I have a lot of awkward moments, what I DO have are ones that annoy, offend or even creep people out lol.
Someone once told me that if it was easy getting over people than they weren't the right kind of people meant for you to suffer with.
Alright, I kinda relate to this and kinda don't. I think this sentence relates more to how the deeper the emotional connection, the harder it is to move on from them. Coz honestly, the "self" that we try so hard to discover is heavily influenced by who we associate ourselves with. However, I don't also make every single friend with the intention that they're all gonna work out like magic, I just kinda do my thing hahaha.
Others have said that hindsight gives you perspective and you end up hurting when you least expect to.
Yep, i think that's a sentiment I can get behind. Speaking of sages, I think we all have some of that within us, some of us just like owning it and make it a part of ourselves that we like showing. I, however, only live for showcasing my exclusive edgy anime meme collections xD. Feel free to ask for some, if you're feeling brave enough
Speaking of gougeres, I don't think I've ever actually had one, so might add that on the list of new things to try, along with tacos and burittos.
You give me Ravenclaw vibes, and I absolutely love it
With that said,