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Lately I just became so sad but this sadness actually helped me focus a lot on my academics and become a good listener. It's just that, somehow my feelings can change who I am a person, well temporarily and the results are truly awe-inspiring.

I'd like to know if anyone in the community experiences this as well, let's talk.

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It is perfectly normal for someone's personal feelings - whether short-term or long-term - to impact how a person reacts to a situation or series of events.  The only time such things become an issue is when you allow these feelings and emotions to dictate who you are as a person.  "These are emotions that I am having" - is a perfectly health perception.  "These emotions control me, I can't break away" - is not.  I'll say immediately, however, that both of these methods are normal.

We all get locked into places from time to time where emotion dictates our actions.  It's just part of being human.

Then there's those emotional experiences that transform who you are.  That can work in your favor, or it can really get you good.  Those changes in life are dangerous to go through alone.  (Been there, done that, got the t-shirt.)  Hopefully, everyone that's here that may be going through such a thing knows they can talk about it though.  I'd like to think we all have each others back in some shape, way, or form.

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This question is dense and to be honest I'm not completely comfortable leaving a wall post around on something like this... but I'll kinda quote and talk about it slowly spilling the conflicts in my mind that fill me with anxiety and longing

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to be honest, feelings can sway my decision

im a logical thinker, but 70% of the time, my feelings will win if they ever met with one another

feeling inferior to other people -- which is good couse it gives me motivation to get past their level, or atleast near their level

though, sometimes i get the feeling of "ill never reach them, they are too perfect and good for me, im useless"

at such idea's, i always just think of one thing

they are not perfect, they have weakness too, they just don't show it

or atleast that's what i tell myself when i wanna give up xD

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I'm personally sort of stoic and some of my friends thought it was unhealthy to keep my feelings bottled up. However, in a lot of ways, keeping things to myself was the best lesson for me. I figured them out on my own, without any outside influences or manipulation there to tell me what I should have felt/be feeling. Emotions and feelings are such natural mentors. There's a lot you can learn about yourself and in-turn help others with the necessary confidence. They also give us some of the best experiences in life, which are great tools to utilize and grow from. Just be sure to keep your head and not be whisked off at certain times! It's a good idea to find a balance and not overwhelm yourself with different emotional roles. You should seldom change your personality on sentiment impulses. Unless you might have a condition that can't really be helped or that there's little mental consequence. 👍

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I don't really rely on feelings though I think more on what is wrong and what is right. Since being born in the 80s and beyond that people have a saying called sticks can break my bones but words can never hurt me. Now everyone is so uptight and a cry baby.  Back in the day comedy was gold, now you are scared to say anything without a bunch of cry babies on twitter coming after you.  Its more important to know what is wrong, then to cry about someone offending you.  Just remember to that actions also show more then words.  

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I'll echo what @Faeding said; there's so many layers to this question and due to its nature alone, answering in full is a wall of text about some very personal experiences.

I used to think I was a more logical person, but the older I'm getting the more I find I have to rely on empathy for dealing with most situations I find myself in. Thinking of myself as a stone cold and forwardly-thinking individual was in hindsight awfully obtuse of me. Realistically, humans are complicated. We all feel a colourful range of emotions but where we differ is in how much we choose to acknowledge them. I now see it as a sign of maturity being able to balance decision making between thinking with your brain and thinking with your heart. Leaning too much in either direction causes turmoil on the opposite end. 

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It becomes a struggle to be honest. I get overcome with sadness or just regret and I can't find the motivation to do anything I love. Even talking to people will become hard. Makes my life a pure struggle sometimes.

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17 hours ago, Wedgy said:

I'll echo what @Faeding said; there's so many layers to this question and due to its nature alone, answering in full is a wall of text about some very personal experiences.

I used to think I was a more logical person, but the older I'm getting the more I find I have to rely on empathy for dealing with most situations I find myself in. Thinking of myself as a stone cold and forwardly-thinking individual was in hindsight awfully obtuse of me. Realistically, humans are complicated. We all feel a colourful range of emotions but where we differ is in how much we choose to acknowledge them. I now see it as a sign of maturity being able to balance decision making between thinking with your brain and thinking with your heart. Leaning too much in either direction causes turmoil on the opposite end. 

Answers and reasons used to be very clear... very linear thinking... it's not hard for me so that level of expectation put on others was simple.  Now I'm afraid of the walls and I'm continually middling in every aspect possible out of.. fear of my passed failures. 

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Tbh, I just look at every challenge as a chance for self improvement and even make things harder on myself on purpose. I believe every human being has the strength to accomplish anything if they just have enough willpower and motivation to work towards it. This view of humanity is something I live and judge others by. I completely hate weakness and therefore I try my best to be there for people who are struggling so I can help awaken the potential they have inside. In my honest opinion though most peoples lives just arent worth living and that makes me both sad and angry, so I try to inspire others; I believe everyone needs to have their own ambition and dream to do something(s) just for themselves because if someone only ever does things for others and teaches said others to do the same the cycle of self-sacrifice wont end. And hey, dont get me wrong, selflesness can be great and all but if thats all you are and all you wish for others to be there will be no more great people nor defining purpose for your sacrifice if those you sacrificed for never did anything for thmselves. 

Kind of a long post, lol. Good topic though @KeyDee

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I've had severe anxiety and depression growing up (still do) so I'd like to think it contributes to not needing hardly any socialization or just people being around me in general. So being left out from parties and gatherings doesn't bother me much. If I need socializing of any sort I'll just go on here or play a game online.

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That's defensive pessimism. Your sadness helps you do things. In my case it's the opposite. I can’t concentrate when I'm sad. I lose my appetite. I can’t even sleep. It's so frustrating. 

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