How to make a relationship with girl? =/

[FRAYKER]

This is going to sound... A bit blunt. It's not my intention to hurt your feelings.

 

1) I think you should examine how you are talking about this girl. You're calling her arrogant and selfish. Those are not things you should be saying about someone you have feelings for. Especially when nothing other than a casual friendship has manifested. This is not a sturdy foundation to build love on. Consider your own oppion of the person you have feelings for. They should be ultimately positive.

 

2) I feel like what typically works best is to not do anything special. Talk to her like you would anyone else. Spread out your social media contact with her a bit. Invite her to things in groups and alone. Try not to get too invested and stress yourself out especially so early on. It's unbecoming and is a mood killer.

 

Be kind to her and see if she opens up to you. If after awhile you're still unsure if may be time to take the direct approach and just tell her about your feelings.

 

Keep your interactions positive and show interest in things that seem important to her. Just be a decent person to her.

Ye, I agree, but these "arrogant and selfish" are attracting me to her, I don't know why

She is too mysterous and she is like a book in another language.

[Ryuji]

How she reacts. Hm, when I was asking questions she wasn't answering just yes or no, she gave full answer and she was answering like she waited for this question. Some times she was looking at me and smiled. And we had some eye contact

Anyway, I'm worrying about that

I don't know does she like me or not, because she is not active in chatting with me or talking, may be she doesn't care

She gives you full answers and she smiles at you. That's enough indication to me that she cares.

As for why she's not active in chatting with you, she might be nervous and not completely comfortable talking to you yet.

I've never met a girl who smiled at me who didn't care about me as well. It's not necessarily in a romantic way but she at least enjoys your company as indicated by the fact that she doesn't just give you one word answers to try to get you to go away.

[Optic]

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[Columbus]

The only thing else I can offer is to just keep talking to her, keep getting to know her, and the closer you get, the better towards you she will be. Honestly man, the only reason she may come off selfish and arrogant is probably because it's her barrier to other people. That doesn't make it a fact of who she is and I think you see through that.

 

She might have been hurt in a previous relationship. Some girls who try to act like bad girls normally are not in their home life. It's kind of like a cover. I hope this works out for you, my friend. Despite what people think of her. The only thing that truly matters and counts....is that she's important to you. The true pursuit of happiness in our lives is finding that special someone that we can't live without.

Edited January 7, 2016 by Guest

[kaelen_the_funkie_munky]

well if you ever find a better one, don't be like "I would do anything for you." they all like a bit of friction in a relationship

[Belgrade_assassin]

Honestly I don't know how people can just say

Well ask her out and get it done with...

 

That would have never worked out for me. IMO context is everything, find some nice excuses to spend time with her/him and show her.him everything you've got. And by this I don't mean that you should go and ask that person out but rather act as though you don't know something (like a lesson perhaps or an entire subject) and ask her to help you with it (that's how my gf got me lol), really anything that seems innocent or natural will do. You can't just go out to a restaurant with a complete stranger. Imagine how it'd be if the 2 of us went out? Knowing myself it'd be like 20 minutes of awkwardness until we'd realize that it's not really going anywhere. So find some context, a good excuse to spend time with someone and the more you get to do that the more other person will get to know you and the more you'll get to know the other person. You could be talking about ancient Romans that probably have nothing to do with love or romance but it' not always about that. I've never thought I'd end up with my gf since I've never really seen those well hid features of hers but after a while I was certain that she was the one for me.

 

I don't know how relationships are supposed to look like but I know that you're the girl I'd love to try that with.

 

So it's all about the base(jk), it's all about context. The more interaction you get the better the chance you'd eventually have, and the more natural and unforced the interaction is the more your true personality will have a chance to shine.

Lastly don't confess too early, it means surrender. Ideally you want the other person to confess first because knowing that someone is into you is kind of a turn off and you're risking possible future relationship if you freak them out straight away. (it happened to me)

Oh and God bless LDRs, they're great starting points.

[AnimeThief]

Women are just like everyone else no matter how you try to look at it. You both need common ground. You both need to have things in common and have more good qualities that you share than bad qualities. If the bad qualities out weigh the good, than that relationship will have a short lifespan and by that I mean you're relationship will be a ticking time bomb to the point it'll eventually expire sooner or later.

 

Having a relationship with anyone in general is like investing money in the bank. If you don't invest in that relationship and that person. Things may not work out. People say you can't be friends with the woman because than you'll end up in the friend zone, that is a misconception. That's almost like jumping the gun and I used to be the guy who strongly believed that. What that statement really means is rushing things.

 

If you just out right date the girl with no previous experience with them, than it's easier for them to kick you to the curb, and the same goes with the male as well. Because neither of you have no real feelings towards one another. It's the idea that it's cool to date. Get from home base to a home run for some. That may work for sex/ fling short term. But that will never guarantee a long term relationship. Unless that's how you want it to turn out.

Edited December 21, 2016 by Guest

[Xyro]

Tbh, I just think you learn who you truely love through having a friendship with someone. I mean, come on! Its taken me my whole life to finally realize what I'm like and who I am, so don't think you know someone thoroughly after a year of talking to them (or maybe a month, but I don't see why you would instantly want a relationship with someone)

 

If I had to give advice, I would say just be friends with them ^w^ aproche them in a way you feel comfortable and see if they have common interests. After all, trying to go out with someone who looks at you as if your human trash is obviously not someone you should be going for.

 

Logically speaking, I can't really say much in this matter, since I have been single my whole life (probably something to do with either my looks or weirdness, odk ) BUT trust me, its so much better to build a relationship up with someone from the ground up rather then diving past the foundations and into the furniture. Because at the end of the day, the relationship is bound to get unstable, and collapse.

 

What's better, is that doing this method allows you to pick up on small detailes, like quirks and types of smiles and likes/dislikes, and therefore either fall into a draper love or come to realise you both don't connect in that way.

 

To be honest, I'm a single since birth 17 year old giving love advice. I'm not a super reliable source for this kind of stuff

 

Then again, I was raised to be curious towards both men and women alike, so I know my manners

 

P.s: also, ask A LOT bof questions. Most people love to talk about the things they are passionate about, and it really gibes you insight into how that person thinks and feels.

Edited December 22, 2016 by Guest