Father's Day?

[Cy~]

Ah, so like, it's Father's Day. Have you called your old man, lately? How's your relationship with your dad? Do you have any father figures in your life that you connect with?

 

I have never seen a topic like this, but I'm feeling family-lonely, today, so I want to emotionally leech on see some alternative takes on Father's day and maybe swap stories.

 

I guess I'll start with myself, though it's a bit of a buzzkill (probably why I'm making this topic - either uplift or commiseration of misery would be better than what I have now). I haven't spoken to my dad in about 13 years, and I'm kinda terrified to do so since I was literally disowned and disinherited when we last spoke (for reasons ). Other than my dad, I had a bunch of other father figures that didn't turn out so great either.

 

So like, this Father's day, I'm contemplating the nature of fathers as an abstract philosophical concept.

 

Sooo, what are you doing?

[Orius]

The same thing I do on Mother's Day - nothing.

 

I shouldn't have to explain my relationship with my parents, for those who know me well (or just paid attention to my posts at all). My mum would force me to greet my father with some cheesy "Happy father's day", and I would have to awkwardly form those words outta my mouth in a very soft-spoken voice. I hate having to say such insincere words. Sigh.

[Kohloo]

My biological father and I don't get along the greatest, so we only speak a few times in a year. Father's Day generally isn't one of those days (why would I call him on Father's Day when I don't even call him on his birthday).

 

With my stepdad, it's a bit different. We get along great and he's the man that raised me (seriously, my mum and him have been together for 20 years in July). When I was younger I used to always get or make him a Father's Day gift. As I got a bit older with my own income, then often I'd go halfers on something with my mum (the most recent thing being a new barbecue). In recent years I haven't gotten him anything (mainly because of living situations or life in general), but I still always wish him Happy Father's Day.

[brycec]

My father and I have a good relationship, much better than my mother, though I do not have a bad relationship with her either.

 

This year, I gave him a handmade card, because I cannot afford anything right now, unless they are preorders or I pay in cash.

[Imogen]

I called my dad today. We have a pretty decent relationship (it helps that we live half a country apart and see each other maybe twice a year). I didn't send him anything though. In my family a call is a fine gift.

[RyePotatoes]

My Dad and I are very close ever since I was young. You can tell that I am much of a Daddy's Girl. This is maybe because my Mum was the one working for us and Dad was always there at home to take care of things. It's like a switch of the old men-should-do-the-work-for-the-family thingy. Situation at home is like a court. Me and my siblings would sit on court with mum as our Judge and Dad as our lawyer

 

But Mum is okaaaay we love her too. It's just that she's more strict about things which is kind of the reasons why she's not into the secret about lovelifes or crushes at school. Especially now since my 9 year old sister is having a crush on her seatmate

[RepentantSky]

You'll excuse me for getting truly serious here for a moment but Father's day is a day I honestly wish didn't exist. My father died in 1997 and since then, the vast majority of people I've known in the real world who are also fatherless because of death or abandonment has only increased. My 16 year old cousin's father walked out as soon as he found my cousin was pregnant, she and her brother's father walked out on my aunt and them before I was old enough to remember him, my brother-in-law and one of my friends lost their fathers last year, one of which was very close to the holidays and another friend of mine whose father walked out on him tried to re-connect with him in 2015 all while he told me how much worse it is to have that opportunity while I'm sitting here trying not to think about how I never got to say Goodbye to mine while he was still alive. Father's Day is a mess for me and most of the people I care about, which is why I generally stay away from social networks on the day and still try not to think about it. Working in retail as long as I did made the whole "Dads and Grads" thing that got shoved down my throat for several years truly a challenging time. While I'm at peace for the most part with my own Father's passing, thinking about it around this time of year is never easy, even more so because I know so many people who went through similar situations. My younger cousin also lost his father figure, who was his grandfather through my aunt's second husband back in 2011 before he turned 10, making him the same age I was when my father died, so there's that as well.

[LoVelyBitcH]

Ah, so like, it's Father's Day. Have you called your old man, lately? How's your relationship with your dad? Do you have any father figures in your life that you connect with?

 

I have never seen a topic like this, but I'm feeling family-lonely, today, so I want to emotionally leech on see some alternative takes on Father's day and maybe swap stories.

 

I guess I'll start with myself, though it's a bit of a buzzkill (probably why I'm making this topic - either uplift or commiseration of misery would be better than what I have now). I haven't spoken to my dad in about 13 years, and I'm kinda terrified to do so since I was literally disowned and disinherited when we last spoke (for reasons ). Other than my dad, I had a bunch of other father figures that didn't turn out so great either.

 

So like, this Father's day, I'm contemplating the nature of fathers as an abstract philosophical concept.

 

Sooo, what are you doing?

 

I can relate, but I don't talk to either of my parents. Dad is an alcoholic and in/out of jail. Mom is also alcoholic and a prostitute. Sad situation with both, and I don't have parental figures in my life. These kind of holidays are hard, along with thanksgiving/Xmas. They can be especially lonely. It's hard also cuz my husband's family do family things, but I've never really felt accepted by them either. Mother in law blamed me for a long time about ruining their life. So, all in all I totally get the lonely feelings and trying to work through them in the best way possible. If you ever need some to chat with, I'm your girl.

[BlueSodaX]

Hello. Happy Fathers Day!!!