KeyDee

Well, I am an introvert myself and therefore do not have much experience talking with other people; I usually don't want to talk to people and therefore try to end conversations they attempt to start quickly. Despite this however I am extremely confident, therefore despite finding conversation with most people unpleasant I can if I wish to do so easily. 

Confidence is something that everyone should retain, what child is not confident? Everyone is confident until for some reason they start to look at themselves as less. To be confident you need to realize that you are your own master, you are beautiful and powerful and no one can tell you differently because no matter what they say, you know you are. 

Now, to regain lost confidence you must forgive yourself for any past slights or mistakes that still nag at you; if you cling to past mistakes they will only drag you down and make you think you haven't changed however the person you were in the past is not the you of today. Seeing as you seem only shy you probably just don't feel comfortable in your own skin because you think other people will find you nerdy (geeky, ugly etc). The idea that we are embarrassed simply because other people see us is wrong, if we are embarrassed in front of others then we are embarrassed by our selves. We cannot read the minds of others, we just assume they are looking down upon us or thinking ill of us, this train of thought is toxic and only leaves us paranoid of the supposed thoughts of those around us. 

To be confident you have to realize you do not know what other people are thinking, everyone has different opinions and no matter what you do some people will like it and some wont. You need to realize that the opinions of others mean absolutely nothing and that succumbing to the wants of the supposed masses will only hurt you and your self confidence in the long run. No one can make you into something you are not, only you can do that and you mustn't do that. Just worry about what you think of yourself because ultimately that is what truly matters, if you cannot live up to your own standards you truly fail yourself; you must be strong in everything we do, whether big or small because in doing so not only will you give others the permission to do so but build yourself up, becoming more powerful. Think of it this way, you are your own best friend, would you really rather deny yourself than deny the idea's or values impressed upon you by some random person or even a friend? You need to hold your own opinions of yourself in the highest regard. 

The feeling of embarrassment can creep up on anyone, simply shake it off, you know it does not matter. If you want to talk to this girl, you're kohai just go up confidently and start a conversation; once you don't care about mean comments people may say or thoughts they may have you can allow your beautiful personality to shine through you as you commune with them. 

An easy way to talk to someone new is to think of them as being just as shy as you are; approach them nicely and talk to them the way you wish people would talk to you. Being nice can make conversation with others easier; simply talking to someone else is good but if you add natural and unforced compliments it can ease the tension or the awkward feel. 

Good luck you beautiful human being you. ♥ 

Thanks a lot, your answer was really helpful. Now all I have to do is to do what you said, I'm gonna be my own master. 

RA9